Welcome to the Family!

13 Jul

Anna gave me her grandmother’s email address. I sat there for a little while trying to find the right words.

Hi 🙂 

I am so nervous, I am not sure where to begin!! I guess to start, my name is Becky. Though I guess you already knew that 🙂 It is such a pleasure to meet you!! 

I am not sure what Anna has told you about me but before I say anything about myself I wanted to tell you that while I don’t know them too well, you have a truly amazing family. They have been so kind, gracious and helpful. Anna is one in a million. 9 months pregnant and she still took the time to help a stranger. Her parents, have been wonderful as well. I could not have been luckier than to find myself connected to such good and kind people!

I have so many things I want to say to you 🙂 First and foremost I know I must have come as a complete surprise to you!! I am so sorry for any shock I might have caused you. I never in any way want to cause you any kind of hurt. If in any way I did, I am truly sorry!! Anna said you are open to talking to me and I would absolutely LOVE that. I am so thankful you would be willing to do that! I would love to know more about you and your family. I just wanted to reach out to make sure you are comfortable with that.

Thank you so much for taking the time to read this. I am more than happy to answer any questions you might have for me. I am an open book! I look forward to hearing from you and learning more about each other 🙂

Sincerely,

Becky 

There is was. I put myself out there and waited for her reply. And her words……just the first sentence alone of her reply…did it for me.

WELCOME TO OUR AWESOME FAMILY. 

At that moment, all was well with the world. Yes, I would surely still wonder who my father was. But in that moment I no longer felt unwanted. I felt quite the opposite. Just those words were enough for me to be at peace. I may never know who my father was but I know he came from a good line of people and those people accepted me. I knew in that moment that if I just had a few pictures of both men and knew a little bit about each of them that would be enough for me. Not only because it had to be, but because I understood.

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3 Responses to “Welcome to the Family!”

  1. thegenealogygirl July 14, 2017 at 6:35 pm #

    I love this! Acceptance and understanding are very powerful.

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    • citygirl0801 July 14, 2017 at 6:48 pm #

      That is so true!!!! I was lucky to find people who accepted and welcomed me as it is not always the case. As the person doing the searching it is so important to dream big but keep your expectations reasonable and most of all, as much as you want your answers, be respectful to those on the other end. As much as you want to know the truth, often times, this is a complete shock to them and you need to be sensitive to their situation as well. But of all people I know you know that well. I have loved following your story!!! 🙂

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      • thegenealogygirl July 14, 2017 at 8:35 pm #

        Thank you! Everyone is so different and how they respond is so different. I’m glad you found some family who were accepting. I imagine it makes all the difference in the world.

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